It’s no secret that I have an abundance of vital sexual energy and  I enjoy my naturally high sex drive.

I’m grateful that I’ve attracted a lot of polyamorous and tantric lovers who enjoy similarly healthy libidos. Here are some secrets to how we do it, and a personal list of my top 10 favorite aphrodisiacs that I will be offering at Poly Palooza! 

People often ask if we use Viagra, Levitra or Cialis on group dates or at poly play parties. The answer is that I prefer natural and sustainable solutions to maintain high sex drive with minimal side effects. 

I appreciate that pharmaceutical sex enhancers have been life changing for millions of men (and women,) but I believe such treatments are best used as a last resort, in consultation with a doctor, while working on more holistic psycho-spiritual sources of sexiness such as decreasing stress and increasing communication with your partner(s).

I admit, through the years I’ve experimented with a variety of exotic sex enhancers like Spanish Fly, Chinese mushrooms, and spiced oysters. These recreational escapades have yielded mixed results (with great stories I’ll save for another time.)

Today, I practice pure eco-sustainable sex enhancers which you can find at your local supermarket. Following is my top ten 10 list of natural and common aphrodisiacs.  I personally have had first hand direct success with in raising my libido by using them in and on my body (and I’m happy to share some short sexy stories to go with each of them.) Perhaps some of these foods you have in your refrigerator right now, My hope is that the next time you consume them, it’s with a sexier intention! 

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #10 The Banana. 

Obviously the big juicy phallic shape of the banana screams pleasure! Just watching my girlfriend Roxanne eat a banana is better than most soft porn. I believe Mother nature made certain long hard fruit (like carrots, zucchini and cucumbers) to remind us that we don’t have to eat them in order to feel their benefits deep inside our bodies.

But did you know Bananas trigger testosterone production? They are rich in potassium and B vitamins, which elevate energy levels and Doctors found that they contain bromelain enzyme, that increases libido and reverse impotence in men.

I love sharing fresh organic Bananas with my girlfriends. They always seem to taste better when someone is watching.  They can also be frozen and put in smoothies or dipped in chocolate. In Central America, the sap of the red banana tree is sipped as an aphrodisiac elixir. Best thing about bananas is they are naturally poly because you can buy them by the bunch!

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #9 Pomegranates.

This exotic red fruit has long time been a symbol of sensuality and fertility, but did you know, the juice is scientifically proven to lift testosterone levels up to 30% – which increases sex drive for both men and women. Researchers have found that drinking pomegranate juice improves blood flow and it is rumored to increase genital sensitivity. One study by The Male Clinic in California found that pomegranate juice had a positive effect on erectile dysfunction. 

Pomegranate seeds can be served in a variety of ways from sprinkling on salads to cocktails to desserts. Warning: Pomegranate juice will stain clothing. To avoid staining carpets or clothing, my lover Tahl and I found the best way to eat pomegranates is naked, every October, when they come in season, we steal them from the neighbors tree and like to feed each other in the bath. We have fun bursting the little seeds between our fingers and watching them spray all over our bodies.  Be careful not to get them in your eyes as they are highly acidic and burn for at least 10 seconds.  

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #8 Cinnamon. 

My new lover Jason and I share a special morning routine that often involves coffee at a cafe on the corner. Just a few shakes of cinnamon will elevate my morning sipping experience into a sensual one. Recently I’ve been cutting down on caffein, but found great pleasure in adding cinnamon to a warm glass of almond milk, on my oats or on a muffin.    

This spice has been shown to increase sex drive over time and though Cinnamon does not have an immediate affect, it can heat up your body over time which can heat up your sex drive. Some of the long term benefits include its ability to lower high blood sugar, which restricts blood flow to the genitals. It is proven that controlling your blood sugar can lead to better sex.  It will aslo helps women reduce painful urinary tract infections. 

If you rub a drop of essential cinnamon oil gently onto the genitals, you can create a powerful sexual stimulation. Careful not to use too much, I have one girlfriend who claimed it made her clit go numb, but I wasn’t exactly gentle with my rubbing and I’m convinced that had to do with the oil. 

Naturally Sexy aphrodisiac #7 Organic Chocolate.

I confess, I am melting a piece of dark chocolate on my tongue as I type these words.  What is sexier than savoring fine organic cocoa in your mouth? Chocolate is rich, thick, smooth, and yummy just like sex. But is it a real aphrodisiac or is it just the association of all the heart shaped boxes from valentines?  

Recently there has been a big comercial push for dark chocolate as an antioxidant. The essential ingredient in most chocolate is cocoa, the seed of a tropical fruit tree. The higher quality of raw, organic cocoa, the greater the potential of both antioxident and aphrodisiac properties. 

Chocolate contains phenylethylamine (PEA), which stimulates the same feel-good hormone your body releases during sex as well as during the first moments of falling in love. It also increases dopamine and serotonin production which are both “natural high” chemicals naturally occuring in our bodies when we are happy, passionate and in love.

Chocolate may also work like an aphrodisiac because of the placebo effect, but I never underestimate the power of placebo. I take notice which of my lovers are easily influenced by the power of chocolate and I take full advantage of it buy making sure to have some handy when someone needs convincing to get in the mood. 

Many of my lovers are attracted to shamanic journeys that involve ingesting amounts of raw cacoa in combination with breathwork, though I am not called to do this medicine, I will recommend Tziporah’s work and one of my favorite non-conventional application of this aphrodisac is using it as a body butter for massage and oral sex. Rasa’s Raw Sensual Body Oil Dark Chocolate will be available at www.PolyPalooza.com or will be purchased at www.cacaoshamaness.com. 

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #6 Avocado.  

Raw Foodies have been known to call the avocado the “chocolate” of the Fruits.The inside of an avocado has a smooth creamy texture that reminds me of… and you can lick it off her fingers, rub it on eachother’s skin, and even use it as hair conditioner.

The Aztecs once called the avocado tree a “testicle tree” because the fruit hangs in pairs on the tree, like male testicles and the fruit has had a long time reputation as a traditional remedy for erectile dysfunction. 

Science now shows that avocados are packed with nutrients essential to sexual health, including beta carotene, magnesium and vitamin E, (which is sometimes called the “sex vitamin“ and said to boost the state of arousal and intensity orgasm.) It also has the good fat needed for the body and heart. An avocado also delivers more potassium than a raw banana.

I eat avocados nearly every day, but my only direct experience with them as an aphrodesiac is that one time that I self pleasured under a tree, and I have to warn you, falling avocados can pack a pretty powerful punch!

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #5 Pine Nuts.

High in energizing zinc, which is linked to sex drive because it is essential for producing testosterone, pine nuts have been used to increase sexual stamina, fertility and sex drive, since the Middle Ages.

Sorry, I don’t have any sexy stories involving pine nuts–yet. I do like to put them in my pesto with basil and olive oil, which are also rumored to be good for high sexual performance. My son, however, likes to pick them out of his pasta. 

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #4 Maca.

The first time I was introduced to this superfood was when my girlfriend Roxanne left a little love note on my doorstep with an raw Maca bar …and Bam!…I was in love.! The Maca was OK, but you should’ve seen this love note. (She even drew a picture of her boobs.) 

Maca root It is a relative of turnips and radishes comes in red, black, cream, and purple varieties and is only found in Peru’s Andes mountains. It has been called Peru’s Viagra alternative and is believed to be a natural libido booster, to increase semen volume, raise sperm counts and enhance sperm motility in healthy men.  Since I don’t have a penis, I can’t testify to how it affects me personally, but Psychology Today wrote a convincing article on the subject: Is Maca an Aphrodisiac?

My favorite way to partake is in smoothies, but it can also be ground and used as an herbal extract in drinks, and in candy.

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #3 Cornstarch

Like the banana, this natural aphrodisiac can bring pleasure without having to eat it :) Cornstarch is an awesome substitute for massage lubricants like coconut oil. I learned about this when studying reflexology. It’s messy, but totally worth it!

The first time I tried it, a sexy bisexual body worker come to my home and put a sheet down under the massage table, then asked me to disrobe, completely. (Since it’s so messy, this massage does not involve draping, in fact in order to avoid getting it all over your clothes it’s best to perform this massage naked yourself!)  So this woman started slowly started sprinkling cornstarch on my skin and it felt just like…liquid silk.  At first it’s cool, tingly and decidedly sensual.  As she continued, I had powerful memories of being a baby and being swaddled in baby powder! The whole experience was so deep and nurturing. 

I hope you try it yourself to see what I mean. Start by dropping just a few spoons on your lovers naked skin and once you have made little piles of cornstarch on their erogenous zones you can continue to pleasure them with a pastry brush by gently spreading it over their entire body. Then use your hands slip and slide all over. Play with the pressure between your fingertips. Try feather light strokes and other pressures to your lover’s taste…it can be sooo sensual! Pay particular attention to the sensitive areas like back of the knee, and small of the belly. (Be careful in the inner thigh area, remember a traditional use of cornstarch is to make gravy or sauces.)  Be sure to allow time at the end of the session to clean up and shower off! The ultimate outcome is to awaken your senses. Afterwards, your lover’s whole body will feel brand new!

We will be offering optional corn starch massages at Poly Palooza!

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #2 Honey.

I prefer to date vegans (people who do not eat animal products) but as long as it’s organic, local and raw, I make a powerful exception for Honey!  Besides, my poly household goes through more honey than you would believe! There is something sooooo irresistible about this sticky golden substance that is made through pollination. We drink it with our tea, eat it on our toast and of course suck it off eachother’s nipples.

Honey as a form of sugar is easily metabolized and rich in B-vitamins, enzymes and amino acids it helps to pump the energizers through your system which provides the high energy you need to sustain in long tantric sessions. It also contains boron, which helps regulate estrogen and testosterone levels and provides a natural energy boost. 

 Even the Kama Sutra mentions honey spiced with nutmeg as an aphrodisiac which is said to heighten an orgasm. One of my little known erotic secrets is that I like to bring Bee Pollen to Sexual Play Parties as a lat night snack when the energy dips.  

Naturally Sexy Aphrodisiac #1 Damiana.

Most men bring flowers, but on my very first date with my husband Michael, he brought Damiana Aphrodisaca! He had a local witch doctor mix up an herbal blend and we drank it together as an after dinner tea. (Scroll down for the full Recipe!) 

Damiana (Turnera diffusa) is a native American flowering shrub from regions south of Texas. According to early Spanish missionaries, Damiana leaves were traditionally mixed with sugar for use as an aphrodisiac.   

Damiana has also been used as a herbal cure for impotency, to improve  mood swings and regulate menstrual problems!  Damiana oil is said to contain resins, terpenes, and tannins which have been known to bind to testosterone and progesterone receptors. Scientific studies on test rats discovered strong evidence of increased sexual excitement, in both sexes! 

Drink up, you Dirty Rat!

Here are 4 recipees of Damiana Drinks. At Poly Palooza we will have a Damiana Tea ceremony before the poly play party with non-alcoholic exact tea that bewitched me on my first date with Michael. 

1. As a tea: Mix together 1-2 teaspoons of Damiana, add boiling water and let steep for 10 minutes. Strain, like a loose leaf tea, and add some sugar, Agave syrup, sweetener or honey.
2. As an alcoholic sexual impotence drink: Mix together 2 ounces of damiana leaves, an ounce of dong-quai root, an ounce of American ginseng root, two ounces of vitex berries, four vanilla beans, nutmeg grated, brandy, and a cup of honey. Add enough brandy to submerge the herbs up to three inches, seal with a tight lid, and leave for three weeks. Warm and liquefy the honey and add it to the mixture. Drink two teaspoons of daily.
3. The original formulation of the  Margarita specified a traditional Mexican liqueur made from Damiana extract.
4. The so-called “Damiana Margarita” is said to be popular in Mexico’s Los Cabos region and Damiana Liqueur is available in the USA. 

Imagine how sexy it will be to surround yourself with a room full of poly and tantric lovers to share a meal with ALL 10 of these natural aphrodisiacs!

We will be holding such a banquet at PolyPalooza, a 4-day polyamory festival at a clothing optional Resort in Desert Hot Springs!  Join us on Oct. 10-14th for Parties, Hot pools, performances, meals and community bonding! For details go to: www.Poly Palooza.com

 Just for fun in the kitchen and bedroom, here are some additional foods that will increase the sex drive: Truffle, Aniseed, Wasabi (Horseradish), Vanilla, Peppermint , figs, garlic, ginger, ginseng, licorice, papaya, nutmeg, chili pepper, basil, Cardamom, rosemary, strawberries.  

My big and obvious disclaimer is that I’m not a doctor and most natural aphrodisiacs are not scientifically proven, I have seen the effects on my own personal libido, but since everybody is different, I encourage that you try for yourself to see what works and what doesn’t. Fortunately, most of these foods are good for the general health of the body, and one of the greatest keys to a healthy and fulfilling sex life is having a healthy body.

If you enjoyed my Top Ten 10 list of Natural Aphrodisacs, check out these other Top Ten Lists:

•  Top 10 Safer Sex Standards for Polyamory, Swinging and Open Relationships & Group Sex
• Top 10 reasons to go to a 4 day festival for free lovers!
• Polyamory is Easy; Scheduling is a Bitch: Top 10 Time Management Tips for Open Relationships

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You say you want to
accept what is
but I say: Fuck It.
Don’t just welcome
the moment, 
embrace it.
Have your way 
with reality,
if you will, 
make love to life!
–Kamala Devi

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To Daniel.

The One.

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Our  Disney vacation was undoubtedly an unforgettable adventure for our six year old son, Devin, but a surreal experience for his parents who don’t buy into the standard monogamous narrative where heterosexual people are supposed to  fall in love, have a fairytale marriage, have kids and live “happily ever after.” 

  I see this trip like an extreme sociological experiment, and had fun writing the top 10 things I learned. This post gets very personal and vulnerable so please ‘like’ or share to let me know you enjoyed hearing about my family life. 

The Disney Cruise Liner was called the “Fantasy” and set sail from Orlando, stopping at the Grand Caymans, Cozumel and their own island in the Bahamas.  The  state of the art ship featured  decadent feasts, Broadway style shows and state of the art entertainment (It even has a 1,500 person theater where we saw the world premiere of the Monsters University.) The primary reason we went was because my father invited us to celebrate my stepmom’s 60th birthday with the whole family, and we needed a vacation from all the ‘adult’ media appearances…Little did we know what we were getting into. Now here are the top 10 things I learned, some are sexy, some funny, but all are my raw truth.   

10. “All Aboard!” 

We left about a dozen lovers in San Diego for a week to travel with my blood family. (Counting my 3 brothers, their partners and kids, we made up a total headcount  of 14.) The first thing I noticed was the similarities between my blood family and my polyamorous family of choice:

Just like at home, it is challenging to deal with seating arrangements, sleeping schedules and special diets when you are moving in a large pod.  We may have our differences but we are committed to compassionately working it out. Also, I felt the importance of spending time with each individual family member as well as connecting to the whole group. 

Fortunately my blood family knows about our polyamorous lifestyle, (even if they don’t agree or understand it, at least we don’t have to hide anything.) Devin felt free to talk how much he misses our poly lovers, Tahl and Jennifer. However, there is always an unconscious assumption that Michael and I are exclusive with each other. (You should see the look on the face of the crew when Michel said he was shopping for jewelry for his girlfriend while holding my hand.) 

9. “Poop Deck.” 

If you think you are going to relax and meditate on a Disney cruise, you are kidding yourself. They may offer massages and daily yoga classes on the 11th deck, but with over a thousand kids running around, (and half of them still in diapers) the ship was anything but serene.  I ended up having more fun with Devin on the watersides than seeking my solitude. 

8. “Lost at Sea” 

I learned that the best place to relax and watch the sunsets was in the jacuzzi, they had several such glass bottom, horizon edge jacuzzi. Meanwhile, Michael learned not to spit off the bow while we are cruising full speed ahead! 

7.  “First Mate” 

I learned that a Disney cruise is a rich opportunity to strengthen my primary relationship with my husband. As you may have guessed this is clearly NOT a  place to pick up on other polyamorous people. In fact, it is so family oriented that we did not meet even one other person in an open relationship. Because of our notoriety in the poly world, Michael and I are used to meeting poly people at restaurants, stores and even gas stations across the country.

Without any other poly lovers or romantic interests, Michael and I enjoyed spending long stretches of romantic time together. It is so valuable to have a strong foundation of love, trust and communication in order to share our relationship with so many others lovers. (Maybe one day we’ll have enough critical mass to start our own poly cruise?) 

6. “Seamen in the Vessel”

I learned Disney uses euphemisms for Sex. Even though our fellow passengers may not be big on Showtime’s late night programing, Disney held quite an audience at the “Adult only” mid-night shows.  Cursing was not allowed at these comedy, puppetry and ventriloquism acts, but occasionally they would refer to ‘discovering the magic”  wink, wink. Nudge, nudge. 

It’s astounding how Disney will  draw all kinds of subliminal suggestions, depict sexy princesses, but will not even talk about sex! On the ship, I marveled at images of princess Jasmine,  Pocahontas and Ariel (My personal favorite) look like they just hopped out of a Playboy centerfold!?!

As parents of a 1st grader, we feel that his sex education should be developmentally appropriate. When Devin asks questions about sex, we answer him in ways that he will understand, always letting him know that sex is not for children. We tell him that curiosity is natural and it is healthy to explore his own body, but not in public, and not to touch anyone else’s body without permission, or let anyone else touch him. 

5.”Land Hoe!”

Michael and I took it upon ourselves to keep the boat rocking. While Devin was engaged in daycare, in the privacy of our luxurious state room, we would gaze at the erotic depths of the sea from our porthole and share many a fantasy about mythical sirens. Ever wonder how mermaids pro-create? Perhaps they have vaginas that only appear when they are in heat, and they must mate in groups. I imagine a whole school of them swimming onboard to make love to the crew before migrating to warm shores.  

I even fantasied about the all powerful Posidon who’s job it is to protect the sea creatures and make sure all the marine animals pro-create. I had fun imagining all kinds of creative uses for his magic triton, as well. 

There is something sultry about being in constant motion that inspires such wet dreams. (After all, the ship is called the Fantasy.)

4. “Swab the Decks”

Ironically, the best time to do relationship maintenance is when everything is ‘smooth sailing.’  Many people wait until there is conflict in the relationship before talking about it. . They associate ‘processing’ with something you do only when you have a problem. 

However, the world class Disney Cruise line knows better. Every time we pulled into port, Michael and I marveled at  how quickly the crew would get to work on hosing off the salt water, touching up the paint, and repairing everything before it breaks down. 

Michael and I followed Disney’s lead by spending several lovely afternoons sipping on coconuts and discussing the deep matters of our hearts. Here is a simple and helpful formula for a ‘state of the relationship’ conversation. We’d ask each other:

What works?,

What doesn’t?

What do you really want?

This communication exercise allows us to practice personal growth when our reserves are high as opposed to trying to change when we are hurt, defensive or reactive.  It makes processing more pleasurable and gives us positive associations with talking about the relationship so we are not afraid to have the difficult conversations when waters get rough. 

3. “Man Overboard” 

 I thought my life was indulgent until I looked at Disney’s decadent dessert menu. It is nearly impossible to diet on a cruise. Even if being a vegan steered me away from the 24 hour self serve ice cream bar, they managed to tempt me with dairy free chocolate brownies and gluten free pastries. Every dinner was sit down service with more courses than any one person can handle.

 I’m sure I have many lovers who will be happy to hear that I can no longer button my pants ;) Ironically, what I actually learned, was not when to stop eating, but how much fun it is to indulge!  On this vacation, I didn’t have to cook, clean or work, and I learned a lot about quality event production.  The Magic is in the details. I can’t wait to get home and start working on the menu for Poly Palooza.  

Poly Palooza is a life changing festival for polyamorous people. It’s 4 days and nights of a delicious vegetarian buffet, workshops, parties, performance art and unforgettable community bonding experiences at a natural hot springs resort.   

This special event is hosted by my polyamorous lovers who have experience in teaching, healing, entertaining and are eager to put “All hands on deck” to help you “Discover the Magic.” I’m also gathering my out of state lovers, such as Reid Mihalko, Diana Adams, wayward travelers such as Viraja Prema and Ran Baron. Check out www.PolyPalooza.com for details.

2. “Life Preserver”

Even though the emphasis of luxury cruise liners tends to be obscenely indulgent, the industry has been going strong for over 100 years and has tremendous potential for state of the art sustainability. This ship makes it’s own fresh water. It is making the world smaller by employing international crew from all over the world. It makes me think that if global warming affects the coast lines and overpopulation creates scarcity of land, we would be able to economize space and create communities on such ships. It is not a bad quality of life to wake up on the coast. 

1. “Walk the Gang Plank” 

Yes! This was a pleasurable vacation to Paradise. But it doesn’t change the fact that I already live in paradise with my polyamorous family. In sunny San Diego I’m constantly surrounded by people that share my values of honesty, openness, creativity, sex positivity, and full expression. It’s hard to believe that I could experience a trip like this and still get homesick, but the truth is, I can’t wait to get back into the arms of my beloveds: Roxanne, Daniel, Rachel, Jason, Tziporah, Keli, James and of course Jennifer, Tahl. Then ofcourse there all the other lovers in our super pod that make San Diego Heaven on Earth! 

For an invitation to a life changing vacation go to www.PolyPalooza.com.

Or if you are on the East coast, join us for a revolutionary experience at Network for New Culture. http://www.nfnc.org/sc/

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I Dance for Freedom  

In my heart is the heart of every woman

The longings of my body are the longings of the feminine everywhere

There are not billions of women in the world

There is one sacred feminine essence

Expressing its diversity through so many forms…

Our feelings, like our cycles, long to sync

 

In my heart is the heart of every woman

And through my body I will live the impulses her circumstances don’t yet allow her to

 

I move for all those told to sit still

I make sound for all those told to be quiet

I push boundaries for all those who are bound

 

The essence of the feminine is freedom

As much as it is love

Without the freedom to choose it, there is no love

Only dependance…

 

For all those who have been shamed, I am shameless

For all who have been controlled, I am liberated

For all those who have been forced, I protect myself

For all those who have been inhibited, I am wild

 

My yes and my no are both my own, and both expressions of my freedom

I am sovereign, whole, and the master of my own destiny

You may appreciate me, and love me…which will heal you

But you may not possess or control me

 

For all the women who have been forced to cover themselves, I reveal my nakedness

For all whose sex has been shamed, I am wanton

For all who have been told they have to choose, I see beauty in every man, and use my own to soften and ennoble him, and remind him of his own heart

For all who have been told to feel less, I heighten all of them and turn them into art, giving others the permission to be fully human again.

For all who have been made less alive in any way, I dance.

 

A woman’s body and feelings are inseparable

Both meant to move with the currents of life

Uninhibited, they sparkle.

 

A woman’s body is meant to dance

Moved by feelings that have no words

Yet need expressed

Her movement is the language of the ineffable

And how her deepest heart is made manifest in the world

 

Her body was made to create life

Every impulse in it is an expression of creation

All sacred…

The breadth and depth of her aliveness are the only meaningful measures of her success

 

I dance because in life’s loving itself, it offered to existence the gift of the feminine

The same forces that lead the moon in its celestial dance, dance me.

I dance, because freedom and love are the nature of every woman.

~An ode to the life work of Laura Martin~ http://www.flyinglaura.com/

For a video of her Championship click here.  

There will be live erotic dance and performance art at Poly Palooza, a 4 day poly festival at a clothing optional resort in Desert Hotsprings on Oct. 10-14, 2013. Check out www.PolyPalooza.com 

If you liked this poem and want to hear more revolutionary ideas from the author, Daniel will be speaking as one of the panelists at  Poly Palooza (And doing spoken word at the Tantra Theater Talent Show.) 

Photos by Rob Armstrong, Namaste Media and Rich Van. 

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Friday July 12 – Sunday July 21, 2013. New Culture Summer Camp East

Where does Kamala Devi and the San Diego Polyamory Family go to lean and practice high level skills for sustainable new paradigms on relationship, community and global activism? 
‘Network for New Culture’ is about creating sustainable, rich, intimate personal relationships, along with a sustainable world to enjoy them in, based on transparency, delight, freedom, and community. In order to create a New Culture in our lives and in the larger society, we put on events that help us develop the skills we need to make that real, including communication, self-knowledge, presence, conflict resolution, and effective activism. These events can be an evening or weekend, and some last 10 days or more, so that we can “live” New Culture and turn new skills into daily practices. (http://www.nfnc.org)

Kamala Devi and Michael are taking their son camping on the east coast for 10 days while presenting on how to “Liberate your Love Life”  offering a Sacred Snuggle Party and creating god and goddess gatherings to explore radical gender issues in a Zegg Forum. Who wants to hang out and play with the  stars of Showtime’s Docu reality series: Polyamory: Married & Dating?  

Other fabulous program planned this year for New Culture Summer Camp East:

•   A Transition Activist Intensive with Charles Eisenstein, author of Sacred Economics
• Embodied physical communication workshop with blues dance teacher Ted Maddry
• A revamped and deeper Human Awareness Institute intimacy training with Ben Farris 

Along with building community skills, the New Culture community asks questions about what a healthy, violence-free culture might look like – for example, how do we raise children? How do we care for elders? What might intimate relationships look like? What’s an ethical and sustainable way to grow our food? We have lots of questions and not too many answers. The fun part is looking at these issues together and trying out possible solutions while we practice being non-attached, curious, and transparent and also being playful, creative, and connected. We have no gurus and no dogma – a diversity of opinions is welcomed and appreciated.

 Read all about it at http://www.cfnc.us/program.html and http://cfnc.us/schedule/Schedule_current.pdf.

Along with building community skills, the New Culture community asks questions about what a healthy, violence-free culture might look like – for example, how do we raise children? How do we care for elders? What might intimate relationships look like? What’s an ethical and sustainable way to grow our food? We have lots of questions and not too many answers. The fun part is looking at these issues together and trying out possible solutions while we practice being non-attached, curious, and transparent and also being playful, creative, and connected. We have no gurus and no dogma – a diversity of opinions is welcomed and appreciated. 

Intimate community without the limits of geography!

New Culture Summer Camp East Friday July 12 – Sunday July 21, 2013

Network for a New Culture is an all volunteer, grassroots network; the Summer Camp is the heart of NFNC.  For 18 years, Summer Camp and New Culture have grown to include more time, more places, and more people.  Smaller gatherings now happen every few weeks, scattered around the country:  Seattle, Oregon, the SF Bay Area, San Diego,Pennsylvania, Virginia, New York, Boston, Hawaii, and more.   Group houses and intentional communities have formed in many places that incorporate New Culture values and insights. Contact: Sarah Taub and Michael Rios http://www.cfnc.us

Can´t make it to the East Coast?  Busy in July?  Meet us in Oregon!

 Summer Camp West 2013 Fri. August 9 – Sun. August 18

Start living the dream! 

 Kamala Devi and the San Diego Polyamory Family are excited about network for new culture’s summer camp because they are getting inspired with ideas and teachings to bring home to Poly Palooza on October 9th 2013. A 4 day polyamory festival at a clothing optional resort in Desert Hotsprings Ca. For details go to: www.PolyPalooza.com 

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First published in 2008, the Sacred Sexual Healing book by Baba Dez Nichols and Kamala Devi has been out of print for over a year and the new 2013 edition is now available at Amazon.com in both paperback and Kindle editions.  

Sacred Sexual Healing provides insights, exercises, and knowledge in a clear, down-to-earth voice, which will help you get in touch with your own sexuality, and discover incredible things you never knew you were capable of.

You will learn the Shamanic approach to finding the god-goddess within and re-scripting your reality. There is an entire chapter devoted to both male and female Tantric orgasms, and another that will help you find your sacred spot.  

There is a spiritual element involved as well.  No, not organized religion.  Sacred Sexual Healing will help you understand where you fit in the Universe and how to improve your life on many levels.

Introspective and illuminating, Sacred Sexual Healing will change your life for the better.  Order it today!  It’s only $24.95!  Order the paperback here.  Order the Kindle edition here. 

In France, you can find Sacred Sexual Healing at  http://www.amazon.fr.  

In Germany, order it from http://www.amazon.de.   

In the United Kingdom, order from http://www.amazon.co.uk.   

 

 

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As soon as we decided to change our annual Tantra Palooza Festival to “Poly Palooza,” I was overwhelmed with resumes from DOZENS of high level Poly teachers from across the country, who all have something valuable to share. But how do I chose? 

Poly Palooza is a groundbreaking retreat where you will experience intimate connections with families that have vast experience successfully navigating complex polyamorus relationships. We are offering radical tools and transformative practices to access your full erotic expression within an immersive community where we dance, play, soak, study, work, eat, sleep and awaken together! You will develop deep friendships that will inspire and support you for a lifetime.

Reid Mihalko is a Sex relationship expert that helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor and knowledge. Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women, and he has appeared in media such as Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages. www.ReidAboutSex.com

Michael McClure is a stand-up comedian, musician, actor and a co-founder of Tantra Theater. He has over 12 years of training in Tantra and 15 years practicing polyamory. He is a spokesman for honesty, sex positive communication and safe sex. A lifetime surfer and athlete, he leads men’s groups and can be found at http://www.EthicalStud.com. In addition to starring in Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating, he has appeared on Dr. Drew, Ricki Lake, the Tyra Banks Show, Discovery Channel, Inside Edition and other international television productions. His environmental work has reduced global warming emissions by hundreds of tons using commercial lighting technologies and his ecological home has been featured on the GreenBuilt Tour. Michael is married to Kamala Devi and has about a dozen lovers and 6-year-old son who he spends a lot of time surfing and swimming with. Video Clips of his performance art can be found at www.TantraTheater.TV and his Stand Up comedy can be found at www.PolyamoryMichael.com.

Jennifer Gold has been married for 9 years and in an open marriage for 4. Jennifer is featured on Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating, and has also been on the Dr. Drew show and performs in Tantra Theater. She loves to salsa dance, ride motorcycles and do Pilates.

Tahl Gruer was born in Zimbabwe and moved here in 1989. He has been Married to Jen for over 9 years and is in love with both Kamala Devi and Michael. He is an acupuncturist and herbalist and has been studying Chinese Medicine for 6 years. He has been practicing Tai Chi and meditation for over 13 years. Tahl has his own line of herbs and supplements including herbs to assist in maintaining and increasing sex drive.  www.TahlGruer.com

Diana Adams is a lawyer and family mediator who is a nationally-recognized expert on polyamorous, LGBTQ, and nontraditional families. Diana founded Diana Adams Law and Mediation to provide legal advocacy and support for intentional family formation and respectful family dissolution in New York, supporting many poly families in co-parenting and negotiating family contracts. Diana teaches nationally at law schools and is a frequent media commentator on the changing nature of the American family. Diana lobbies in support of alternative families as a Board member of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance, and welcomes stories of alternative families with the Family Matters Project. Diana is also out as a queer, bisexual and polyamorous woman while thriving in the professional world and teaching at ivy league law schools. Diana co-founded and co-hosts New York’s monthly Polyamory Cocktails, the largest gathering in the world young adults interested in polyamory. Diana’s poly relationship has been profiled in the New York Times, Current TV and MTV’s award-winning docuseries True Life “I’m Polyamorous.” She will share her legal explanation for the changing American family, and her own poly story, in the upcoming documentary Monogamy and its Discontents by Tao Ruspoli. For more about Diana’s poly activism: www.FeministOutlaw.com. For more about her law and mediation practice: www.DianaAdamsLaw.net

Friar Tuck is an openly bi poly professional. His musical journey as a DJ began over 18 years ago in Baltimore, where he explored a wide range of genres, from jungle to trip hop, acid house to ambient, funky breaks to lounge. This mastery of many styles served him well after moving to LA, where he found many loving crowds both on the dance floor and in the chill room, building up a reputation as a master of wicked funk with eclectic taste and solid mixing skills. His move to Brooklyn in 2004 brought about a fresh opportunity to fuse West Coast funk and innovation with East Coast edge and grit. Get lost in the deep beats and layered grooves, only to find yourself in warm melody and catchy hooks. Feel the darkness, see the light, say your prayers, and get ready for something different! For mixes and information on upcoming shows, visit www.TheGoodFriar.com

Roxanne DePalma is a highly skilled and intuitive Holistic Health Practitioner/Yoga Instructor. She also teaches pole dancing, gives nutrition education, and supports others in the conversation of sex and relationship.

Daniel is a scientist, philosopher, and social visionary. Daniel is in a deep open relationship with Roxanne and has been connecting with the San Diego pod for over 5 years. He is the founder and director of a global strategy think tank working on new governance models for coordinating and optimizing positive endeavors across all sectors. He has is an evolutionary thinker with a diverse background in interdisciplinary science, complex systems management, psychology and personal development, human health and wellness, and strategic design and optimization. His driving motive is the development of new integrated global systems that make possible and support the highest quality of life for all.
He teaches integrated spirituality which is about cultivating a profound love-affair with reality. Seeking to ever-more-fully understand, love, and be of service to existence and all life.

Adam Paulman is a visionary. He has worked with others tirelessly over the past decade to nurture and grow what we in San Diego refer to as “the community.” Adam is also somewhat of a communication geek and has studied NVC, ZEGG forum and NLP. He believes that clear communication is one of the basic nutrients of love. This weekend you will experience him as space-holder, community organizer, teacher, coach and if you are really, really lucky you may schedule a private Tantsu session in the new year.

Keli Lalita is a Tantric educator and counselor who specializes in life and relationship coaching. She’s a solo poly advocate who’s been practicing polyamory and Tantra for over five years. Founder of the Goddess Open House Collective, a free weekly women’s support group, and CEO of a marketing company, Keli brings compassion, advanced communication and organizational skills, and a deep appreciation of the playful into everything she does. For more about Keli, visit www.TantricaWareness.com

Tziporah has over 16 years experience in the healing arts. As a Seminar Leader, Breath Work Trainer,  Relationship, Intimacy & Sexuality Educator, & Cacao Shamaness, Tziporah has worked with over thousands worldwide into deep levels of transformation & personal discovery. She leads a life which promotes being in daily reverence & relationship to ALL of life. Tziporah has enjoyed her personal path in polyamory for over the past 6 years. She calls San Diego home & is passionate about supporting individuals and groups in developing deeper connections & empowerment in all areas of life, love, relationship & sexuality. www.BreatheInEcstasy.com and www.CacaoShamaness.com

Ran Baron, a Tantric Daka, a spiritual seeker and a public speaker in the field of theology, eastern philosophy, and mysticism. Baron has instructed numerous meditation workshops, Yoga retreats and has given hundreds of talks and lectures about the nature of spirituality and self inquiry. He has lived through many different paths and was ordained as a Hindu priest (Brahmana), was certified as a Yoga Instructor, a Tai Chi instructor and has been studying and practicing Buddhism, Tantra, Zen, Hinduism and Yoga in many of its different flavors, sharing and teaching of his own views and vast experience in his talks. Ran emphasizes a non-dogmatic approach which allows for personal growth and an honest thirst for truth, all through an individual experience, where all spiritual paths are different colors and hues one utilizes to paint their own life’s story. http://RanBaron.com/

Viraja is here to help you open up to greater experiences of love. She offers support and guidance in changing and maintaining new perspectives. Viraja coaches people into their heart space and assists them in achieving balance in life (especially physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual). She is passionate about teaching children, young and old, about the beauty of their bodies and their love. She is dedicated to helping you improve your relationship with yourself and others… it is a great honor to be invited into the intimate aspects of your life. http://www.WelcomeToYourBody.com/

Chris Luth is a Southern California based Tantra & Sensuality Educator, Master Tai Chi & Chi Gong instructor, founder of the Conscious Connection Institute and creator of the “Relationship Choice” tm workshop which explores principles & techniques for Polyamorous relating. Having been trained since his early teens, Chris draws upon more than 35 years experience in these fields to address vitally important aspects of human relating from an “ENERGETIC” standpoint. By using this background along with his experience in Relationship & Intimacy Coaching, he has created the “Energetics of Sensuality” tm workshop Series that assists people in discovering greater depth & comfort in the expression of their sensuality & sexuality. Chris has been teaching throughout the U.S., Europe, Asia & Australia for over 20 years and is a regularly featured presenter at conferences on Sexuality & Consciousness. More info can be found at http://www.ConsciousConnectionInstitute.com

Cheri Reeder is deeply focused on self inquiry of bliss and in exploration of the relationship evolution. Cheri is currently writing a book titled “The Smile on My Face”. http://www.TheSmileOnMyFace.com/Don’t miss Poly Palooza 2013:

www.PolyPalooza.com 

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We are celebrating 7 years of monthly Sacred Snuggle Parties! And  have finally decided to switch up the format! 

Since we have a number of lovers and friends who attend nearly every event in San Diego, we will be granting a “Master Snuggler” status to select party goers so they no longer have to attend the opening orientation.  

The pre-requisite to graduate from the opening orientation is attending at least 3 snuggle parties and a brief interview with the event facilitator. Snuggle Masters are welcomed to join the Snuggle party anytime after the social agreements, but can not miss the icebreakers and exploratory exercises!

Also, this month we will be launching a new series of Snuggle Parties in North County lead by Michael McClure. 

If you have never attended, you may be wondering: What is a Snuggle Party and How is it different from a Cuddle Party TM? 

What is a Sacred Snuggle Party? 

A Sacred Snuggle Party is a sweet sensual event where we gather to flirt, touch, massage, run tantric energy, play, laugh, cry, share intimacy, vulnerability or whatever else spontaneously arises. It’s a drug and alcohol-free party where we can relax and connect with like-minded people.  More specifically it is a social laboratory to practice expressing what feels good and what doesn’t, asking to get your needs met, setting boundaries, and perhaps even overcoming rejection!



• 6:30pm Doors Open, Mix & Mingle
• 7:00pm Orientation begins, Only Snuggle Masters are admitted after tis point. 
• 8:00pm Doors close, nobody is admitted late 
• 8:15pm Welcome Snuggle Masters & sensual exercises
• 9:00-11:30pm self directed Snuggle Party
• 11:45pm Final Requests before Closing Circle. 

Please note:
 This is not a potluck, please eat before arriving. Space is limited for this popular event!  Be sure to order your tickets in advance to secure your spot and avoid being turned away!

We are not able to return phone calls the day of the event. 8:00pm is the cut off for late arrivals, nobody will be admitted after the circle is cast. This is a private party and management has the right to refuse attendance to anyone at any time.



Who should attend:


Singles, couples, poly people and celibates of any race, experience and sexual orientation are welcome. We also welcome beginners and teachers, Open hearted, touch positive people interested in safely exploring sacred sensuality.



Who should NOT attend:


Single men who are not comfortable hugging, holding hands or eye gazing with other men.
 Since this is a sex positive environment, homophobia is not welcome.

SOCIAL AGREEMENTS (AKA RULES)


Please arrive on time. The doors will be closed once the “Opening Circle” Begins. We will facilitate an invocation, ice-breakers and introductions. You will be asked to introduce yourself, your highest intentions and your bottom lines. You will also be asked to participate in several exercises. All participation is optional and confidential. Verbal permission is required before engaging in any touch. Everyone is given permission to say No at any time for any reason, and if they say yes they are encouraged to change their minds frequently. The hosts are available to intervene or mediate if anyone feels unsafe in any way. Everyone is encouraged to take 100% responsibility for their own experience. Sacred sensual energy exchange is celebrated, but this is not a Sexual Play Party. Aside from Kissing, there is no bodily fluid exchanged at this party. Clothing is optional. Please keep your body fluids on your own property, such as a towel or sheet or wrap.  At or around 11pm we will call a closing circle to meditate, reflect and share the highlights and lowlights of the evening. You can participate at any level and leave at any time…come check it out!



HOW TO PREPARE


Please come showered and clean with NO strong smelling perfumes. Dress in clothing with layers that makes you feel sexy, beautiful and confident. Bring water, and you may also bring vegetarian nibblets to help keep the energy flowing through the evening. Breath Mints encouraged, chewing gum is not. (No drugs, alcohol or meat of any kind, garlic and onions discouraged.)




How are Sacred Snuggle Parties different from Cuddle Party TM? 

The short answer is this: Sacred Snuggle Parties are a designed for a wider range of sexual and spiritual expression whereas Cuddle Parties are non-sexual events.

Since Sacred Snuggle Parties were originally created in consultation with the creators of Cuddle Party TM, Reid Mihalko and Marcia Bbaczynsk we were very careful about creating a clear distinction between these events to minimize the confusion and competition.

The longer answer is addressed in this blog post originally posted in Feb. 2010 

Cuddle Party TM with Reid Mihalko vs. Sacred Snuggle with Kamala Devi

      People often ask: What’s the difference between a Cuddle Party TM and Kamala Devi’s Sacred Snuggle Parties? Well, they are the same-same…but VERY different! To illustrate the subtle but powerful differences, I’ll tell a little story. 

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1. Get into Integrity

2. Simplify your Dating Pool

3. Increase your Intimacy

4. Shock Value

5. Weed out Old Friends

6. Educate Others

7. End Polyphobia

 8. Stop Lying

9. Coming out is a Revolutionary Act

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Top 10 Natural aphrodisiacs: Increase Your Sex Drive for Polyamory and Tantra 

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Ode to My Mistress 

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WHAT IS ECOSEXUALITY?

1. “Being in love with the Earth, with nature, and giving and receiving pleasure with the Earth. It is also about exploring the eroticism, romance, sensuality/sexuality of nature.” –Annie Sprinkle & Beth Stephens**

2. Someone in a dating or relationship situation that is seeking environmentally and socially conscious partner(s). i.e. Someone who buys organic and drives a hybrid.

3. Using environmentally conscious sex toys such as: natural rubbers, organic lube, bamboo sheets and non toxic sex toys!

EXAMPLES OF ECOSEXUALITY

1. EcoSexuality takes tree hugging to a whole new level.
2. I enjoyed my ecosexuality by humping a mossy log by the cliff.
3. When you listen to the mating call of the crickets, you hear Ecosexuality is everywhere.
4. After the goddess gathering, we went to the creek and pleasured ourselves in the river rapids.
5. Although ecosexuality is a new movement, most people who love nature, say they have always been ecosexual.

SNYNOMYS FOR ECOSEXUALITY

• Tree Humper
• Nature Lover
• Forest Fucker
• Jolly Green Pervert

San Diego Tantra Theater is casting for it’s next show. Join Director Kamala Devi on a life changing 90 day journey and explore the wild, dirty, natural aspects of sacred sexuality!

 To audition or for showtimes, go to www.TantraTheater.TV or Write: kalidas@kamaladevi.com

**This show was Inspired by Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stevens. These Amazing women are legendary artistic inspirations. Sprinkle, who is bisexual, married her long-time partner, Beth Stephens. In December 2005, they committed to doing seven years of art projects about love and environmentalism in which they do an experimental art wedding each year, and each year has a different theme and color corresponding to the seven chakras. For more go to: http://www.loveartlab.org/. 

Their most recent project is called “Earthy—An Ecosex Boot Camp” Where their goal is to shift the metaphor from ‘Earth as mother’ to ‘Earth as lover,’

FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT TANTRA THEATER:

Tantra Theater’s will be performing next at the annual polyamory festival www.PolyPalooza.com For a fun blog check out: Meet the my family of choice: Presenters for Poly Palooza Festival 2013  

Or to read a review of Tantra Theater’s surreal show go to: Cliff Notes and Photos for the Surreal Show by SD Tantra Theater 

For Tantra Theater showtimes and to see the live polyamory stage play go to: www.TantraTheater.TV

Photo Credits: Roxanne and Kamala Devi performing their ecosexuality, by Rob Armstrong.

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I never expected to find such an oasis of deep bonding and personal growth in “sin city”, but after 5 days at the Vegas Exchange Conference for swingers, I clearly underestimated the healing power of Vegas, baby, Vegas!

My mind is still swimming with sensual images from the nightly sexual play parties in penthouse suites with pool tables, basket ball courts, state of the art dungeons, fire dancers, stripper poles in showers…and 49 spankings…More on that later ;)

Although I’m tempted to write academic reviews about the transformational keynote speeches by Larry Flynt and Nina Hartley, I’m going to save the education and sexual activism for a later blog post. This blog is about to get personal.

I have to admit, I wasn’t sure what to name this blog:

Polyamorous sex spies infiltrate a conference with 1,500 Swingers in Vegas.

Or

What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas…unless you are traveling with 4 totally transparent poly lovers who want to blog about their personal growth process.

Or

Michael’s outrageous Birthday fantasy of getting 49 blow jobs!

I thought that last one would get your interest.

Our story starts with a 5 hour road trip that included myself, my husband, Michael, his new girlfriend, Rachel and our shared boyfriend, James. We caravanned with one of Michael’s dear friends, an Ethical Stud graduate and his sexy “Asian MILF” girlfriend. (She is a highly intelligent woman with a background in psychology, but we enjoyed teasing her because she was hanging out with a bunch of soft porn stars.) While there, we had plans to meet a handful of other polyamorous lovers such as Jennifer Gold and her boyfriend Jesse Norton. We were also planning to co-present with fellow sex geek, lover and sex educator Reid Mihalko. The original decision to go to a swingers conference was because we were honored to be invited to speak as celebrity guests and thought it would be a fun way to celebrate Michael’s birthday.

Between coffee breaks and bathroom stops we discussed our hopes, fears and boundaries. It took nearly the entire drive to set our intentions for the weekend. We had enough experience “traveling in pod” to know that there is no such thing as over communication.  We learned from many years of doing overnight trips with groups wherein there are multiple sexual and emotional connections, that full blown emotional breakdowns by one or more parties can be minimized (if not altogether avoided) by setting expectations, agreements and sometimes even exit strategies for the trip.

Setting expectations for this trip was interesting because Michael and I had not been involved in the swinging or lifestyles scene for several years whereas both James and Rachel are virgins. Michael and Rachel were the most excited to meet and play with new like minded people, whereas James and I were more interested in bonding with the lovers we already had.  We all agreed to take radical responsibility for our own feelings, needs, reactions… and give each other full permission to shamelessly peruse our wildest sexual fantasies (hell, we are in vegas!) and as long as we were practicing safe sex and communicating, we didn’t have to worry about hurting or judging each other.

We arrived in perfect timing to set up for the our first of 5 events that we’d be leading that weekend:

• The Sacred Snuggle Party,
• The Poly/Swinger Tantra Puja,
• A Jealousy workshop,
• A Comedy Laugh in with Reid Mihalko,
• and Celebrity guest judges for the bikini contest.

You can imagine our disappointment, however when after staying up so late and playing so hard on Michael’s wild birthday, we arrived at the pool and were told by the organizers that we had overslept the bikini contest–which we never knew we were supposed to be the judges. (True Problems of abundance!)

Otherwise, our workshops were wonderful. Apparently all our material was new for some swingers who had never even heard of tantra or polyamory. Our message was well respected and well received by hundreds. (Let me know later if you’re interested in reading a blog about the jealousy class: how non-monogomous people can easily harness their jealousy for greater sexual liberation.)

By now I imagine you are most curious about Michael’s BIG birthday wish. 49 blowjobs is an outrageous request, even for an Ethical Stud like Michael! How does he do it? Well, to quote the bible:

“Keep asking and it will be given to you; keep seeking and you will find; keep knocking and the door will be opened to you.”

And though most of our teachings don’t typically come from the bible, this happens to be a point on which we can agree.

One of the core values in ethical non-monogamy is abundance and a willingness to ask big–without attachment to whom or how it is given.  So after many workshops of teaching people how to make outrageous requests, Michael and Reid Mihalko do a main stage performance at the Palms Casino wherein they acted out  a number of their wildest fantasies. Enjoy this video of Michael telling one such story:

Michael  and Reid’s comedy performance culminated in a mini- deep throating workshop wherein Reid Mihalko taught a handful of sexy vixens how to suck dildos while Michael played the guitar. Afterwards Reid announced that it was Michael’s birthday and he was going to help Michael fulfill a birthday wish at the penthouse play party, and take volunteers to give Michael a blow job for every year he’s been alive.

That turned out to be one of the wildest parties I’d ever been to, and I had a blast tying my husband’s girlfriend, Rachel up with ropes and giving her 49 spankings on his behalf, while Michael was busy–very busy. He admittedly got more blow jobs than if he never had the guts to ask, but fortunately he has the rest of this year to see if he can the rest of his blowjobs before he turns 50. :)

The following afternoon, we sat down for a deep “poly style” process over lunch.  This 4 way conversation turned out to be the most satisfying moments of my entire trip (even more than my ear splitting orgasms in the hot tub!)  because in that moment, realized then that the biggest distinctions between myself and most of the swingers in that  community is my passion for processing. One of the big differences between Polyamory and Swinging is that polyamory focuses on the emotional connection whereas many Swingers prefer to have sex with no strings attached.

Several times during our workshops swingers would emphasize that they had little to no tolerance for “drama.” On this point, I whole heartedly agreed,  I do not want to create or indulge in any unnecessary suffering, which is why I want to educate everyone on the vital distinction between “process” and “drama.” Drama usually occurs when people are in reaction do not take responsibility for their own actions feelings and needs. “Process” is a mutual agreement to communicate and practice nonjudgmental listening about the deep matters of our hearts, which admittedly can be difficult, but necessary for the maintenance of healthy long term relationships. When people confuse processing with drama, they resist  and miss out on the potential intimacy that is cultivated when we can communicate with an open heart.

So there is my full report. After a 5 day mission to vegas to do high level Reconnaissance, attempting to explore deep swinger territory, I did not come back with any vital enemy espionage, but I gathered more open source relationship information that I hope helps bring more awareness to our growing community.

P.S. Another key to maintaining successful relationships is: BALANCE. In proportion to processing, it’s important to PLAY and Practice together.  We spent many relaxing hours in bed, by the pool and enjoying meals with each other and our other poly lovers Jennifer Gold, Jesse and even a little rendevouz with our traveling love coach: Scott Catamas.

If you are interested in 4 day polyamory festival with play parties and workshops with Reid Mihalko, Kamala Devi, Michael and other lovers check out www.PolyPalooza.com

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Set your DVR for 8 weekly episodes, the World Premiere airs Season 2 of Polyamory: Married & Dating on Showtime Aug. 15th, 2013! Here is the Season 2 Trailer

The San Diego Cast of Showtime’s Polyamory: Married & Dating is having a Season two premiere party!

Come watch the World Premiere of Showtime’s Season 2 of Polyamory: Married & Dating at 6:45pm at Victory Theater Downtown San Diego on SAT Sept 7th.  Afterwards we will have a Q & A with Director Natalia Garcia, and the San Diego Polyamory family.

Details about our Polyamory: Married & Dating Premiere Party in San Diego are  posted Here:

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The San Diego Seaso 2 Polyamory Viewing Party-
What: Episodes 1-3 + Q&A with Director and Cast
Date: Sat. Sept 7th
Time: 7-9:30pm
Cost: $10 donation to help rent the venue.
Where: Victory Theater, Downtown San Diego
2558 Imperial Avenue, San Diego, CA 92102 http://victorytheatersd.org/

Please purchase tickets and RSVP click here:

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For details about the series, or to watch the trailer go to Showtime’s official website.

http://www.sho.com/sho/polyamory-married-and-dating/home

“This provocative reality series, directed by executive producer Natalia Garcia, explores committed relationships that involve more than two people as they share their hearts, as well as their beds.”

“Season 2 of Polyamory: Married & Dating follows two polyamorous families living in Southern California. New to the show are Chris, his wife Leigh Ann and their girlfriend Megan, a threesome living in Hollywood. When Leigh Ann and Chris both fell in love with Megan, they suddenly found themselves in a polyamorous relationship. We also pick back up with our Season 1 San Diego family of Michael, Kamala, Jen and Tahl. This season takes viewers on an intense emotional journey as we follow two families as they navigate the ins and outs of polyamory.”

Thanks for all your love and support through this amazing project!

All our love,
Kamala Devi and San Diego Polyamory Family.

PS Possible Improvisational Comedy by San Diego Tantra Theater!

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This fun 1min. video is from my heart to yours…  

This spontaneous invitation was created to give you a taste of some of the exciting things at store for you at Poly Palooza.  In order to plan for this landmark event, my lovers and I are holding regular gatherings to vision what a sustainable polyamory community looks like,  after one such meeting we snuggled up and pressed record on the computer to invite you into our puppy pile.

Now I’d like to extend a deeper invitation from my heart:

Whether you are polyamorous, open, swinger, tantric or in any other alternative relationship, this event will change your life!   How do I know that?

Because we are designing this event to change our own lives!!!

For the last 10 years in San Diego we have been experimenting with conscious community and we are living at the cutting edge of what is possible in relationship. We are exploring the edges of unconditional love, transparency, sex positivity and creativity.  Whatever exposure you’ve had to Polyamory…imagine that on natural steroids, being studied in a controlled lab, run by sex geeks…and that’s more like what we are doing.  And we invite you to share in the results of our studies.

Imagine a beautiful road trip out to a natural healing oasis where you check in to a luxury hotel for 4 days with over a hundred like minded lovers who create a safe container and a culture of consent for you to explore your full expression in love, sex and relationship!

Each day begins with Naked Yoga, and in between the delicious veggie meals and dipping in the healing waters there are workshops and forums facilitated by experienced lover leaders. The journey continues each evening with performance art, and sensual play parties, and healing sessions where everything is optional…even your clothing!

Check it out: http//:www.PolyPalooza.com

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Besides starring in season 2 of Showtime’s hit Docu-series called Polyamory: Married & Dating, here are 25 things you didn’t know about Michael McClure.

1. As a kid, I had a wild duck for a pet.
2. I built the world’s largest water rocket and launched it at a hot springs in Mexico.
3. The wildest sex I ever had was with a woman I did not see or speak with until after the lights went on.
4. I ran a marathon with minimal training after partying until 2 am the night before.
5. I graduated from high school in Coronado, California and Stockholm, Sweden.
6. My greatest accomplishment as a competitive springboard diver was being beaten badly by Greg Louganis in college.
7. I had sex with the most famous belly dancer in Turkey.
8. I invented and patented a privacy fence.
9. I am straight, but sometimes wish I was gay.
10. I climbed above Everest Base camp hunting Yeti in the Himalayas.
11. In my early days of real estate, I owned 10 apartment buildings and then lost them when the market crashed.
12. While escaping from the police on a moped thru the jungle in Thailand, I got Denge Fever, and survived.
13. I skied off the roof of the Mammoth Inn.
14. During my first visit to a sex club, my girlfriend had sex with 10 guys while I distributed condoms.
15. I lifted off from Thailand at the exact instant that the great 2005 earthquake of Banda Aceh hit and we flew over  the tsunami.
16. I was the first man to put Reid Mihalko’s cock into a woman’s mouth.
17. I played the guitar for over ten years before I started writing songs and singing in public.
18. I get younger looking each year.
19. I worked as a sous chef a French hotel during a surf trip in the south of France.
20. I identified the King of Sweden from his face on a coin and shook his hand.
21. I jumped out of a 3rd story window in my sleep and am lucky to be alive.
22. I traveled the Amazon and studied a rare catfish that swims up the human urethra.
23. I once went fishing for lightning.
24. I used to wear contact lenses but used shamanic healing methods to get my eyes to 20/20.
25. I love Spontaneous sex .

 Michael McClure is a stand-up comedian, musician, actor and a co-founder of Tantra Theater.  He has over 12 years of training in Tantra and 15 years practicing polyamory. He is a spokesman for honesty, sex positive communication and safe sex. A lifetime surfer and athlete, he leads men’s groups and can be found at http://www.EthicalStud.com

In addition to starring in Showtime’s Polyamory: Married & Dating, he has appeared on Dr. Drew, Ricki Lake, the Tyra Banks Show, Discovery Channel, Inside Edition and other international television productions. His environmental work has reduced global warming emissions by hundreds of tons using commercial lighting technologies and his ecological home has been featured on the GreenBuilt Tour. Michael is married to Kamala Devi and has about a dozen lovers and 5 year old son who he spends a lot of time surfing and swimming with. Video Clips of his performance art can be found at www.TantraTheater.TV

To see Michael Perform in Tantra Theater come to www.PolyPalooza.com. We invite you to a 4 day festival for free lovers– where there will be performance art and parties and Michael will be one of the many lovers to do music and comedy!

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The topic of this month’s Tantra Talk is one that is dear to my heart: “Queer Tantra.” 

We had  an intimate but inclusive group of kinky and pansexual people who came together to question all assumptions about heterosexuality, homosexuality and other binary identities.

We began by discussing the concepts of “Queer” and “Tantra” independently, then practiced an advanced tantric visualization that involved deep breathing and energetic shapeshifting, and finally  practiced a Zegg style Forum to hear personal and vulnerable shares from the community about their own Queer and tantric identities.

What is Tantra?

Let’s look at Tantra as a non dual and unorthodox path towards enlightenment. It’s important to distinguish between traditional tantra from the east and neo-tantra, tantric sex, and modern western tantra. Tantra is a huge umbrella term for all kinds of embodied spiritual lineages. My tantric practice is eclectic and includes both my hindu studies from my tantric pilgrimage in South India as well as my spontaneous awakening and years of new age and sacred sex studies.

Tantra is a practice of being fully alive. Dualistic thinking obscures the wide spectrum of direct experience.  If we categorize the world into masculine and feminine, black and white, inside and outside, gay and straight…we miss out on a wide range of possible experiences that are fluidly shifting between spirit and form.

Some tantric traditionalists implore that there must have a polarity between Masculine and Feminine (Shiva/Shakti) when practicing tantra. Through the years I’ve been to many old school rituals where gay and lesbian and trans couples are not allowed to practice with same sex partners. I am happy to say that the trend is evolving towards more inclusion and sexual fluidity. Modern Tantra teachers are realizing that the deepest tantric practices are the solo practice of cultivating the Shiva/Shakti within. One of my fundamental teachings is a deep esoteric marriage between one’s inner God and Goddess.

What is Queer?

Now let’s look at the Queer identity.  ”Queer” is no longer an offensive slang term used to put down homosexuals. In the new generation, it is an umbrella term for anyone who is deviating from conventional sexual and or gender identity and behavior.  This is a radical political term that is most widely used by gender minorities that are not “hetero” or “mono” normative and who’s identity is not fully explained by labels such as Lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered.

As a queer woman and a leader in the tantra and polyamory communities, I am committed to including people who identify as queer and educating people on how to open new understandings to the queer orientation/label. One simple practice is to upgrade our language when talking about sexual orientation and gender identity from LGBT to LGBTQ or “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer.”

Further, I want to avoid making general assumptions based on my perceptions of someone’s gender or who they partner with. The best way to do this is to get curious and create safety for people to talk frankly about their sex. I want to listen without judgement to people’s sexual preferences and aversions.

Personal Experiences

In my eyes, there is no such thing as ‘Too Much information’ or  TMI. I am honored to hear intimate and personal details about sex and sexual identity. About a dozen pansexual people volunteered to speak vulnerably in the Zegg style Forum. Some of the highlights included personal shares about:

• Some people feel receiving oral sex makes them more masculine.
• Some people feel a clit can act like a little cock.
• Anal sex can help some people feel feminine.
• Some people don’t think of themselves as any gender.
• Some folks don’t feel that they are queer enough to call themselves queer.
• Some people love confusing store clerks and being called ‘sir or ‘mam?”

I even shared a bit about my own initiation to Queer Tantra, which began nearly 15 years ago (before I even knew what Polyamory, Queer and Tantra meant.) I had fallen in love with a man who was in touch with his inner goddess, (and occasionally cross dressed.)  Together we explored sacred sex, anal sex, group sex and even long distance etheric sex. At the time, these were radical awakenings, but now these are normal practices for my San Diego polyamory family.

Collectively, we closed the circle in gratitude for the freedom and acceptance that we were all feeing to express ourselves sexually. And we sent a prayer to our brothers and sisters across the planet who are fighting for their sexual freedom.

If you enjoyed this blog and want to attend a life changing community event that embraces Queer Tantra, Join us at this life changing 4 day festival for free lovers: http://www.PolyPalooza.com

If you live locally and want to join us for an upcoming Tantra Talk or Poly Potluck please check out my Event Calendar. Click Here.

For more resources about Tantra or Polyamory, you can buy books, DVD’s or Audio files at my store. Click Here.

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By now, You probably know what polyamory is.
The media has been abuzz about poly since the first season of Showtime’s landmark TV series, Polyamory: Married & Dating hit the airwaves….And if you have been watching the show, you probably already understand the difference between poly and swinging, yet, the most common question I still get is:

But isn’t that swining?

To which my answer is still…NO. Even though some swingers practice polyamory and some polyamorous people swing (like my husband.)

Swinging has it’s own culture, language and practices, Swinging is often referred to as “THE LIFESTYLE” and used to be called “WIFE SWAPPING.” It includes a wide range of sexual activities commonly conducted as an organized social activity between three or more people. It’s often engaged in by a primary couple and can be seen as a modified version of monogamy, involving sexual exploration without romantic or emotional bonds. Friendships and Bisexuality amongst women are considered OK but usually male homosexuality is not. The Lifestyle subculture has it’s own conferences, gatherings, parties, magazines, websites, email groups.

If your interested in how I answer this question, Here’s a fun little excerpt from my newly published ebook entited: Polyamory Roadmap by Baba Dez & Kamala Devi
BUT ISN’T THAT SWINGING?

The relationship between swinging and polyamory is
controversial. Most people agree that polyamory has more to
do with emotionally intimate, long-term relationships than
with one-night stands. Swinging is generally viewed as a
form of monogamy in which two primary partners agree to
have casual sex with other couples or singles, no strings
attached. Swingers may continue to sleep with the same
people for years, but they usually don’t go on romantic
dates and/or process deep emotional issues together.
Baba Dez believes swingers are a category unto themselves.
They have their own organizations, newsletters, conferences
and contact networks under the label “lifestyle”. The
interactions of many swingers, as seen online, is often
sexually explicit and overly concerned with superficial
appearances. Swinging is rarely practiced as a spiritual
pursuit. Most polyamory and Tantra practitioners, by
comparison, do not approve of recreational sex.

Kamala Devi, in contrast, considers swinging to be a subset
of polyamory. As long as the individuals are practicing
responsible and honest communication, it is only a slightly
different love style with a stronger emphasis on sex. The
poly and swing communities, in Kamala Devi’s point of view, are
allies under the umbrella of open relationships. We have
seen many friends and clients who started out swinging and
have matured and transitioned into intimate emotional
connections. We have also seen many poly people have sexual
awakenings that allowed them to let go of their judgment of
sex for sex’s sake.

If you enjoyed this excerpt, you can download the full ebook: Polyamory Roadmap by Baba Dez & Kamala Devi simply Click Here.

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Did you get cut off from watching Season 2 of Polyamory: Married & Dating? You are not alone. Here are 4 things you can do about it!

Three Millions homes in Dallas, Los Angeles, New York and other areas can’t access their local CBS stations or Showtime due to a dispute over fees with Time Warner Cable.

CBS is the number one network while Showtime is one of the most acclaimed networks in America and  they are at a dead end in negotiations with Time Warner, the largest provider in the country. And millions of consumers are changing providers or because of CBS’s near monopoly, many outraged viewers are simply cutting their cable packages.

Thousands of fans of Showtime’s Polyamory: Married & Dating don’t have a legal alternative to get the latest episodes, unless they know someone who gets Showtime from a satellite or cable provider other than time warner, and can watch it with them.

If you are lucky enough to find such a friend, you might just ask to move in to watch “Dexter,” “Under the Dome,” “Homeland” and “Big Brother” since they have also been blacked out.

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR MISSING OUT ON SHOWTIME’S POLYAMORY?

1) Contact Time Warner Cable and Bright House Networks Customers and let them know you are outraged !!

2) Change your Cable Provider to one that currently carries SHOWTIME:

The best alternatives are: AT&T, Uverse & DirectTV Verizon

CenturyLink Prism  |  Cincinnati Bell Fioptics  |  Google Fiber  |  Grande Communications   Hawaiian Telcom  |  RCN  |  SureWest Communications  |  WOW – Wide Open West

3) Find a Poly Friendly person who gets Showtime and can host a viewing party!

People are using social media and MeetUp groups to get together to watch the show. Simply Tweet or FB post something like this:

“Help–Who gets Showtime? Looking for a local place to watch Polyamory, Thursday Night’s at 11pm–Sharing is caring!”

The San Diego Family has rented out a whole theater and will be hosting a premiere party this weekend! Open to any/everyone in the So. Cal area! For tickets and info CLICK HERE.

4) Wait for it.

Most Showtime programs eventually make their way online, either through Netflix or other On Demand programing. I do not advocate for piracy or illegal means of watching the show, but many of our out of country fans and viewers feel they have no legal choice.

According to theNew York Times, the “focus of the dispute” is the rights to programming packages that CBS sells to on-demand services like Netflix and Amazon. “Time Warner Cable wants to gain access to that content; CBS insists it would mean Time Warner Cable was getting for free something it sells for hundreds of millions of dollars to on-demand services,” says Thursday’s article.

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The San Diego Polyamory Family is putting together an EPIC end of summer Poly/Tantra Party! (This photo is from our last Sacred Snuggle Party in North County) OOOooOOOooo! What’s happening on FREAKY Friday the 13th?  SoooOOOooo Glad you asked…

YOU are invited to…Experience the community, learning and sensuality of Poly Palooza in at a love laboratory with a dozen top leaders at a local San Diego event. Immerse yourself in up to 10 hours of:

Register for the Pre-Party Here:

• Community building exercises
• Discussion groups
• Panel discussion on the top poly mistakes (plus tips and tools on how to avoid them)
• Performance art
• Zegg Style Forum
• Snuggle party
• Dancing
• & Live music!

ESSENTIAL INFO:

WHEN: Friday the 13th, of September 2013 Starting at 2pm-Midnight

WHERE: The Sanctuary in North County, RSVP for directions.

WHO: Past, Present & Future Poly Palooza Participants & Friends (Anyone who is curious about this heart opening 4 day festival in Desert Hotsprings, on Oct.10th.

WHAT: Play with your fellow Poly Palooza participants, teachers and community! Learn Valuable lessons about open relating as we cram the best teachings of our Poly Palooza 4 day festival into 10 hours! You will either leave wanting more or feeling like you are about to explode from the sensual expansion!

SUGGESTED DONATION:
FREE if you register for Poly Palooza 2013 or just $15! This event will go strong until midnight! Ins and Outs: You may come and go as needed during the day, but after 8pm no one will be admitted. Also, there are Free bonus gifts available for anyone who registers for Poly Palooza!
To purchase tickets to the Pre-Party register Click Here. …Or RSVP on FB and pay cash or check at the door.

HOW TO PREPARE:
Sexy & creative clothing encourage. If you plan to arrive before 7pm, please bring a vegapotluck dish. Please do not wear strong perfumes or bring Illegal Drugs or Alcohol.

Want to learn more about Poly Palooza? Click here or go to www.PolyPalooza.com

To Register for the Pre-Palooza Party Click Here.

Good News! We are extending our 3pay plan for everyone who wants to purchase an ALL inclusive Poly Palooza ticket (only $299 per month) if you register before FREAKY Friday the 13th. (For details Click here.)

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